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Tantalizing Tuesday - A Brief Distraction!

Not sure what I was searching for on the web but came I across this on http://www.underwearnewsbriefs.com/2010/02/brief-distraction-59/ titled A Brief Distraction.

It certainly was a distraction!

Orgasmic Tips for Her

Thought I'd share a few tips with my sisters to help them have better orgasms.

This is a list in progress so feel free to share some of your tips with me.

Attitude

Open up your mind to new ideas.  Be willing to try new thing and new positions.

Clear your mind

Focusing on something sexy, like how hot your guy looks in the shower will get your mind prepared

Don't be self conscious

Don't worry about how you look.  Trust me he is not looking at how fat your thighs are.  He has got far more important things on his brain!

Feel good

Make yourself feel good - put some perfume on, wear something a little sexy.  It will make you feel wonderful.

Foreplay

Oral sex is a great way to get going.

Men need direction

Yeah this one is pretty self explanatory - you need to tell him what you like and where you like it.

Know yourself better

You cannot tell your man what to do unless you know what you like.  Masturbation is the key.  Don't be shy to do a little experimenting on your own.

Tone your muscles

I'm not talking about going to the gym.  I'm talking about doing regular kegel excercises.  Keeping these muscles toned will help your orgasms to be so much stronger

Get a Thrill

Doing something that you get a thrill from. It stimulates dopamine in the brain, which gets your juices flowing.

Delay tactic

Get yourself close, then simmer it down. Repeat this a few times before the great explosion.

Tantric Sex

I am starting to get more and more curious about this term.  Focused breathing can boost your pleasure - especially when practiced by both of you.

Explore

Porn - aka Erotic movies and books can be tasteful and arousing, and the more aroused you are, the better your orgasm chances.

Start early

Start the day with sending him sexy little messages through out the day.  This is a great turn on and can have you both hot and ready for when you get home.

Watch what you put in your mouth

A this included anti-depressants.  If necessary see your doctor about how your medication may be affecting your libido.

And stock up on aphrodisiacs - chocolate, chile peppers, asparagus, avocados, and oysters

Get help

If you have low sex drive or none at all - seek help from a doctor or a therapist

Relax

And this is probably the most important secret - just relax and enjoy yourself.  

Call Me!

Woman can be weird sometimes and I am no different.  There are little things that make me laugh or giggle and my phone is one of them - especially when people call me while I'm driving.

I now have an iPhone 5 - battery life seriously sucks on it so I have gotten into the habit of plugging it into a power source when driving.  All the little compartments in my car are full of various bits of crap like keys / coins / kids phones and other tidbits.

So I tend to plug it in an stick it between my legs while driving.  And then when my phone rings, well, you can just imagine the look on my face (ooooooooh, I'm vibrating!)

So I had this idea - thought I would create an app that well, makes me smile on command if you know what I mean (wink wink). Thought that if I was going to take this seriously, I would have to do some research and see what other apps are out there.  So I went onto the App store and searched for the term "Vibrator".  I came across 131 of them.

I downloaded a few FREE ones (in the name of research) and thought I would tell you about them.

iVibe Massage Lite

Tap screen once to start the vibrations.  Makes a hell of a noise.  Yeah, wasn't too impressed with it.  You can upgrade to the full version for a fee, maybe that comes with more control.

iBrate

Oh yeah!  Liked this one.....Touch with 1, 2 or 3 fingers to start the vibrations.  The effect was great - will be trying this one a few more times.

Hot Massage

Ok - I paid for this one - looked too good to miss.  This one didn't do anything different to what any of the free versions did - it vibrated, that was it!

iTingle

Paid for this one too.  It has a slider that you can move up or down to vary the vibrations - nice feature.  Very simple and easy to use.

BuzzTXT

This one looked interesting - Says you can send "buzzes" to your friends phones.  Tap buzz to make your friends phone buzz.  Looked like a nice feature so I downloaded it.   Couldn't figure out how to use it and gave up after 20 seconds.

Others that looked interesting:

3D Color Viibrate Stick

Think you need to buy the "appliance" and download the app to make it work - May add this to my Christmas list!

Mybrator

This one also has an "appliance" that you buy and control with your phone.  mmmm - Must look out for it to try!

Can't say any of them are "mind blowing" and left me little disappointed and despondent.  Not sure I will be writing that app after all.  None of them really did anything more than receiving a call will do - so CALL ME!

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Vintage Friday

I bet the front looks just as good!

Cougars, MILFS and GILFS

Every middle aged women (Not that I'm admitting to being middle aged of course) dreams of being found attractive or desirable by men much younger than she is. That is of course if I go by my own fantasies.

Nothing would make me feel more attractive or wanted than a younger man wanting me sexually. And of course the thought of having sex with a younger guy with a hot body, all ripped and muscular is just, well - what more could I possibly want! (Boy it's getting hot in here).

I caught an article online the other day on a news site about a local bar which has become quite popular for picking up older women (aka cougars). A cougar being defined as a woman who is typically between the age of 30-40 and is having or looking for sexual relations with a man at least 8 year her junior.

Apparently it is the in thing for young men to pick up older women (or is it older women who pick up

younger men....).  And let's not mention the term's MILF or GILF that have become very popular just recently.

Anyway, younger men are preferring to link up with older women as they are far more mature and obviously far more experienced in the bedroom department. The other advantage to this is that apparently the usual "courtship" routine is not necessary. Cougars are happy to buy their own drink and you don't need to wait for the obligatory 3rd date to get a home run. Both are ultimately after the same thing - a little bit of fun!

I thought I would draw a comparison between a cougar and an older man picking up a much younger female companion. Not sure what the correct term is for this. I looked it up and I found that the term Manther or Rhino is used to describe a man who picks up a woman more than 8 years his junior. I've never actually heard of this term being used but hey, I don't get out much!

Men who are seen or associated with much younger women always seem to get the good old nudge nudge wink wink from their mates. I'm not sure cougars get the same sort if reaction from their peers - even though they are quietly fantasizing about it themselves.

But all things being equal here, 8 years difference is not that big an age gap.  What about men dating or marrying women literally half their age or vice versa.  At what point do you look at the situation and think Eew!  If I look at a man twenty+ years older than me, he looks absolutely decrepit (no offence meant of course).  Surely a guy looking at a woman twenty+ years older than him must have the same view.  I suppose there is a lot to be said for the term "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

Let us know what you think.

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Tantalizing Tuesday - Christian Kane

This one is by special request from a fellow blogger.  Christian Kane - an American Actor, Singer, Songwriter and lead singer of Country-Southern Rock Band Kane.

 He is just gorgeous!  Who wouldn't want to run their fingers through his hair.

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Cherries and Bananas - Dating Advice for Everyone

Enrique and I came up with this list.  We wrote it as part of our "Free Advice Fridays" series.  Lanthie, Care to chime in here on your dating experiences.  Maybe we can help some of these poor souls out there on their journey toward Relationship Bliss!!!

Lanthie - Relationships are very complicated and I am no expert.  Finding a suitable partner has to be one of the most difficult things in the world.  Some people are just lucky to have found the one. (As always, my comments in red)

1. 95% of the time, the guy or girl you are pining for didn’t lose their phone. They didn’t drop in the toilet or the bathtub. It wasn’t shut off. It’s plain and simple - they just didn’t want to text you. If not, why aren’t they messaging your on facebook or sending you a tweet this very minute? 

Get over your selves.  If we don’t want to text you we won’t.  But then I have yet to meet a man who pines for a girl to text him.  It is usually the other way around.

2. If you’re looking at someone’s online dating profile and there are several people in their photo and you say, “Who is that girl? She’s hot!”, the hot girl will never be that girl of the profile. She will always be the “Ok” looking girl standing next to the Hot Girl.  

Don’t ever refer to another girl or woman we know as Hot (or attractive or has nice boobs or legs or whatever).  “I am the hottest thing on earth”.  At least this is what all women want to believe and should be told by the love of their lives.

3. No one’s ever “too busy” to hang out with you. Lots of busy people still date. If they say they are “too busy” that means bug off!

My significant other is always too busy!  So should I take that as a sign…..  Hmmmm  Will have to give it some thought.

4. If they’re talking about their ex all the time, then they are not over their ex. Get out while you can!  Everything you do and say will be compared to their ex.  They are probably not ready to date, even if they claim that they are and it is time to move on.  Don’t believe them!

I totally agree.  You should never talk about your ex.  Yes we are curious about her and do want you to mention her in passing but we want to hear how bad she was in bed or how bad her cooking was.  But please don’t harp on about her.  Be honest with yourself – if you are still in to her then say so and give us the opportunity to move on.

5. Don’t rush into anything. If he/she doesn’t call you girlfriend/boyfriend after a couple of dates, it’s ok.  Take it slow and steady.  

Take it slow and steady.  But don’t play dead.  If you’ve been going out for awhile and he still doesn’t refer to you as his girlfriend, then move on.  

6. How quickly they text you back says nothing about how they feel about you, unless it’s something like several days or weeks – then you have a problem.  Many times, I am driving, working or out jogging when I receive a text.  I don’t stop what I am doing to text back.  I will text back when I am done.  It might be 20 minutes, it might be an hour or two. 

I hate it when I don’t get a text back immediately.  But common sense does prevail and I do realize you may be busy.  So we acknowledge that you may be busy, but do make us feel that you have prioritized replying.  My worst is when someone stops texting in the middle of the conversation.  Have the decency to say you have to go do something or you’ll be back in a bit or something.  Don’t just keep us hanging.

7.  Every girl or guy isn’t going to be “the one” — and maybe nobody ever will. Here is a little hint – Look for “the one who is good right now?” You will find a lot more people filling that description and then you can see if it leads to him or her being “The one.”

The one who is good right now is always a good choice.   We all have different needs at different times of our lives so someone may be good for your current situation.  Get to know them better.  They may actually be “the one”.

8. Sex with another person always means something — whether you are dating casually, non-exclusively or are married. I hate to be blunt (OK, I Love to be blunt) but you are inside someone!  That means something, no matter how you look at it! Sex is an inherently meaningful act. You might say it doesn’t mean anything, but I guarantee you that it means something to at least one of the two involved (and probably both, you are just in denial!)

So agree here.  I cannot have meaningless sex.  If I have sex with you, I care for you and probably very deeply.  So take it as a sign.  And if you don’t care for me deeply, then please don’t screw with me  (excuse the pun) and have the decency to tell me and move on if necessary.

9. Looks don’t mean anything. Hot guys can be jerks, Beautiful women can be bitches, both living in a world where they are obsessed with their looks and feel that everyone else should be into them like they are into themselves.  Likewise, some of the nicest, most genuine and caring people I have ever met had average or below average looks.  “Don’t Judge a book by its cover!”  

You don’t fall in love with looks – you fall in love with the full package.  Take the time to get to know someone before deciding.

10. When someone says they are breaking up with you because they “don’t want to date” that just means that they don’t want to date you.

Very true.  It’s like someone offering you cake.  Why would you say you don’t want cake.  You just don’t want that piece of cake.  So be honest.  If you don’t want to date someone then say so.  We can put on our big girl panties and accept that you don’t like us.  I can’t imagine anyone not wanting a meaningful relationship.

11. Do all of your friends hate your significant other? Does your mom hate them? Do people who don’t even know you hate them? I would say that is a HUGE RED FLAG!  Listen to your friends and family. 

If all your friends and family hate your significant other, then that is a huge red flag.  Must admit I would probably never tell someone that I don’t like their significant other as it is not my place to have an opinion here.  

12. If they don’t show interest in you within a few weeks, let it go.  You’re not going to wear them down or trick them into liking you or waiting around for months for a girl or guy to come around just doesn’t happen.  And if you are officially in the “Friend Zone” even worse.  It isn’t gonna happen.  Sure, there are a few exceptions, but few and far between.  It really isn’t worth wasting months or even years waiting for someone to come around. 

Relationships are a two way street.  You cannot ever expect anyone to come around or ever change.  If the attraction isn’t there within a reasonable amount of time, it is never going to happen.

13. The other sex isn’t as complicated as you think. It usually is a lack of communication that causes all these problems and complications.  Be honest and talk! 

Not much more to be said here.  Communication is the most important thing in a relationship.

14. Don’t flash the bling!  Most potential girlfriends and boyfriends don’t care if you have a fat wallet, a new sports car, or wear $1000 suits.  If they do care, then they are superficial and not worth your time. If you are looking for that, then go ahead and flaunt it, but it is gonna be a lonely (and expensive) romance!

I would live in a shack if it meant I could be with the man I love.  Money and material things mean nothing in a relationship and the good old saying “for better or worse” is very applicable here.  And bad times fall on the best of us at the worst of times.  So just because he drives a nice flashy car now, doesn’t mean he will still be driving it in 5 years time.

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Cherries and Bananas - 20 Sex Tips for Men

So Matt sent me 20 sex tips for men which he found on the internet and asked if I wanted to comment or add anything – Oh yeah – there’s loads I want to add so here goes.  I’ll reply in red where appropriate.

1. Everyone is bisexual. Everyone has thought about it, fantasized about it, wondered if a gun were held to their head, could they do it? If they tell you otherwise, they’re a liar. My sexual preference is ‘often’. That’s the only box I’m ticking.

Hmmm – not sure how true this is as I know a few people who it would really creep out.  Although I’ve only done the deed with men, I will be honest and say I have thought about doing it with women.   But just because I think about it, doesn’t mean it will ever happen either.  It is all down to personal choice.   I can certainly go with the term “Often” though!

2. Dirty talk is not completely necessary. Statements of fact can be surprisingly effective e.g. “you’re so hot/hard/wet”. And by all means alert the church elders with a pre-climax warning “I’m going to cum, I’m going to cum, Oh Jesus I’m going to cum.” But sex is one of the only times in our excessively over-articulated lives that it is perfectly ok, indeed, preferable to shut your mouth and let your hands do the talking.

I love it when men get vocal in the bedroom.  I need to know they are having a good time.  Must admit that I am slightly on the shy side so I tend to not say much during sex.  That and sometimes I am just lost in the moment and feeling too good to comment.

3. Don’t try to make up for the size of your dick by slapping me across the face with it. Would you find it a turn-on if I whipped you up-side the head with my saggy tit? Think about it. And furthermore if you grab the back of my hair whilst I’m sucking your cock, your chances of getting head again, EVER, will diminish by at least 98%. Check if face -fucking turns a girl on before you grab her ponytail and ram your cock down her throat so hard that you give her an involuntary tonsillectomy.

Lol is all I can say here.  I don’t mind a little hair pulling but there is a right place, right time for everything….

4. What is this obsession with men removing all their pubes? Why the ever-loving-fuck do you think it looks better? Your balls are UGLAY. Hide them. Hairless genitals look odd (on men AND women). Don’t let society make you think that your short and curlies are dirty. If you don’t fancy dripping hot wax on to your sack and crack every few weeks, that is fine by me.

Now I love it when men tend to their garden’s.  There is nothing worse than getting a mouth full of hair when down there.  In fact this should be a condition of getting a blow job. I wax it all off too.  Men just love it!

5. We can tell if you’re giving us oral purely as a cursory prelude to sex, a “do I have to do this?” reciprocation of the head we’ve just given you. We can tell if you aren’t enjoying it, and it will make us tense and less likely to enjoy the penetration that you are so keen to fast-forward to. A guy once asked if I “took a long time to orgasm?” as if the problem was with my vagina, rather than his shit technique. Get comfy down there, cos chances are you’re going to be in it for the long haul.

So agree here.  Go down on me and enjoy it.  If it is not your thing, then don’t do it.  Don’t rush things either.  It is not about how quick we cum so you can rush to the end.  It is about enjoying each other to the fullest. 

6. This is more of a general rule about how to treat your partner, based on trust and sensitivity. If we do/say/eat something stupid when we’re having sex/drunk/high/hormonal, we don’t need reminding of it the next morning. Saying really loudly on the bus “remember when you did a really loud fanny fart and then cried after you orgasm’ed” will make me hate you forever x infinity.

Yeah, think of the bedroom as Vegas – what’s said in the bedroom, stays in the bedroom!  No more to be said there.  I am sometimes very self-conscious in the bedroom and would die if someone ever mentioned that I fanny fart or something like that.  He would so never be getting any for a long long time.

7. Another general rule: If your mate says something derogatory and you don’t defend us, even if it’s true, we will hold it against you. Forever x infinity

Fact

8. Real boobs are fun to play with but look like flappy spaniels ears. Fake boobs look nice but feel like shit.

I’m biased here.  I have fake boobs.  They look and feel REAL and I love them and have never had any complaints.  Mine feel perfectly normal and I dare any man to tell me otherwise.  I have however also seen some really bad looking fake boobs (and real boobs).

9. ‘Jack Rabbit’ sex is never good (aka pow-pow-pow-poke-poke-poke-the-quicker-I-ram-the-faster-she’ll-orgasm). This method, reminiscent of teenage fumbles when he had no idea what he was doing and you were too embarrassed to tell him, will hurt and annoy us. Slow and steady wins the race.

Haha – I had a few of these way back when.  Hated these and never went back for more.  Only one thing I can say here – Slow the fuck down!

10.If a girl is dry, it’s not her problem, it’s yours. Spit. Lube. Slow and steady caresses. If she’s Saharan it’s time to add a new ingredient to the recipe.

Too true!  Make the effort to spend more time on foreplay!  It will be worth it.

11.Don’t complain endlessly if we want to use a condom despite being on the pill. Sometimes we don’t want to ruin yet another pair of knickers from your semen seeping from our lady-garden for the next 12 hours.

No comment here – personal choice.  I hate condoms but they are a must have in many circumstances.

12.Drunk sex is better than no sex. But do try to limit your intake of WKD. Intoxicated banging will climax with nothing but sore genitals and possibly an incurable STD.

I haven’t had much drunk sex so not really able to comment here.

13.If you call me ‘bitch’ in the street I will punch you in the neck. If you growl it in my ear whilst flipping me over in bed, I’ll get highly aroused. Same goes for slapping, biting, and using the word ‘pussy’. None of these things are appropriate in everyday situations but can be highly effective in the bedroom. Though I may want you want to fuck me like a whore, I still want you to treat me like a lady.

Amen!

14.What you think of as ‘no make-up’ is actually a carefully devised cosmetic procedure including cheek stain, translucent mascara, combed eyebrows, sparing concealer and subtly glossed lips. Don’t be surprised that when we wake up we actually look like Tim Minchin.

I actually look better when I wake up than I do after sex! 

15.Finger banging is not the one.

I like to be played with with your finger and your tongue, but I really like you inside of me more.

16.We don’t want to hear about your ex-girlfriend, ever, even if you’re bitching about her.

Or your ex-wife – it’s just creepy.  Even though we are curious as hell.

17.Eye contact is the best way to say “I want to fuck you.”

Oh yes – and seeing your eyes roaming all over me just drives me wild.  Says so much more than words.

18.It is highly unlikely that any of the places are where your soul mate is hiding on a social networking site. But if you do happen to ‘stumbleupon’ a potential lover, don’t kill the romance by obsessively refreshing their facebook wall. There’s a fine line between following and stalking and chances are, every single one of us has pissed all over it at some point. It’s tempting to over-analyse every detail so don’t take the internet too seriously.

I would go nuts if I took everything on the internet seriously.  We have all had those moments on Facebook where we analyze who said what and who liked whose comment or status.  So just take a deep breath and ignore it all.

19.Not letting a woman kiss you after she gives you head is a surefire sign that you’re a selfish, sucky lover. Ditto cuming in a girl’s mouth without giving her the option.

Agree fully.  So don’t be selfish!  And please ask before cuming in our mouth – not all women like it.

20.The media is forever telling us to be light-hearted about sex, to play, to giggle. But here’s the thing: sex isn’t funny. My breasts don’t ‘honk’ when you squeeze them. Pulling your penis out of your zipper and turning your pockets inside-out is not a hilarious impression of an elephant. When my vagina makes that noise like a vacuum cleaner back-firing it’s because I’m super turned-on and wet. It’s highly common and indeed fairly hilarious (in the pub, not in the bedroom). Ultimately, it’s not embarrassing it simply shows enthusiasm (and, possibly, a wide-set cervix). The most important thing on a date is a good sense of humour, the most important thing in bed, is that you’re good in bed.

A good sense of humor is a must in any relationship. And quite correct in saying that sex isn’t funny.  And yeah, that noise my vagina makes should never be mentioned in the pub either!  Possibly a quick giggle about it after sex is appropriate but should possibly never be mentioned again.

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Tantalizing Tuesday

I'm not a great sports fanatic and know very little about famous South African sportsmen.  So I thought I would broaden my knowledge a little.

This is Francois Hougaard and he is a professional South African rugby union rugby player. His primary position is scrumhalf, but he has recently been playing on the wing for the Bulls. He won the Currie Cup in 2009, and the Super Rugby title in 2010, scoring tries in both finals. (Whatever that means!)

South African female members of a dating site voted him as the most sought after sport’s hottie.

Yummy is all I can say! (And don't forget I'm a sucker for a guy on a motorbike!)

 

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Yoni (Lanthie's Compendium # 8)

So I followed a link to a blog post about 2 weeks ago which peaked my curiosity.  I very briefly read up about it and made a mental note to do a blog post about it.

Now almost 2 weeks later and I'll be damned if I can find the original post.  Anyway....  The post was by a woman who had received an anniversary present from her husband and she tells us all about it. 

Her husband gave her a gift voucher for a Yoni Massage and she tells us about her experience.

I have never heard of the term Yoni before, never mind a Yoni Massage.  So I've done quite a bit of research on it.

Yoni is a Sanskrit word for the vagina, and has different meanings such as "Gateway to Pleasure",

"Sacred Temple", "Sacred Space", "Divine Passage" and "Temple of Delight". 

Receiving a Yoni massage actually means that our "holy temple" (aka lady bits) is being worshiped.  A Yoni massage is also referred to as a sacred massage.

I must mention that the aim of the message is NOT an erotic massage with a happy ending.  Or so they say.  The happy ending is a side effect (if you happen to have one and if you agree to go this far).  The massage is a tantric one, teaching you more about your body and how to relax it and how to pleasure it.  It helps to release all the sexual tension built up inside.

Hubby commented earlier, with a smirk on his face, saying it is just an excuse to have a hand job. (I have an anniversary coming up next month - wonder if dear hubby will be adventurous enough to give me a gift voucher?)

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Vintage Friday

I've been doing some housekeeping this week after my hiatus so thought this was appropriate.  Hope you like my choice for the week. (Pity she's not real)

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Wet N Wild Series - Lanthie Style

I had a request from a fellow blogger to start a "Wet N Wild" series. ( I won't mention names but he knows who he is!)

I thought it was a brilliant idea (although I am not quite sure this is what he had in mind).

  

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Tantalizing Tuesday - Featuring Chad Le Clos

I am featuring Chad Le Clos this week on my Tantalizing Tuesday series. Besides being an Olympic Gold Medalist, he is also from my home country, South Africa. He has just won a couple of gold medals at the 15th Fina world championships in Barcelona this past week.

And let's not forget to mention that he is really yummy to look at!

 

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